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Simple recipe for a happy married

 When the wedding vows pronounced and continued with the honeymoon, marriage is something very beautiful and blissful newlyweds. Time went by, it looks like sooner or later, and then you and your partner like routine like the phrase "business as usual". Do not let this happen in your domestic life, even though it seems normal, but in the long run can make you or your partner bored.
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Let us prevent adverse events in marriage, with a simple recipe and does not need to make you dizzy, among other things:

1. Starting slept together

When you go to sleep, do you always sleep at the same time with your wife or husband? Conditions that may seem trivial, perhaps even escape your attention. But according to Dr. Mark Goulston in the book The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship, it is one key to make a marital happiness. Sure it's easy, but sometimes it is hard to do.

Goulston advise you to always remember the early days of marriage. At that time, did you not wait to be alone in bed? According to him, the happy couple refused to go to bed alone. If it was not later downs together, no problem. Even during a fight. Familiarize still go to bed together though did not speak. Try to keep your hands or feet touched. And avoid the back-ridge, because it will keep you both.

2. Hand in hand when walking together

Happy couple will feel comfortable when walking hand in hand or side by side, rather than one in front, one in back staring at the back. It was indeed strange to the unusual. Awkward indeed, you may be embarrassed to show affection in public. To forget it is a shame, after all he is your legal spouse. Try it. Once you are definitely going to continue to try again for ever, and feel the sensation, then your heart is with your spouse feels more closely.

3. Find Positive Side

Goulston advise you not to find fault with your partner. Focus on what it is doing is right, not wrong. Is easy for you to find the things he did wrong. You were always able to find the same thing true. If both are easy, why do not you look for the right thing? Because it will help you build a harmonious household. Goulston said happy couples prefer positive side.

4. Equate your interests with your spouse

Do not downplay the activities you can do with your partner. If you do not have, according to Goulston, happy couples are usually working on. But at the same time, still maintain your personal interests. That way you will get to love your partner without being dependent.

5. Mutual Forgiveness

It was also part of that you should look. Households without trust, is tantamount to pursuing disastrous. So, create trust and forgiveness as a standard grip in your relationship. Goulston said, if the happy couple quarrel or disagree and cannot finish, they will seek to trust and forgive one another, not distrust and merciless.

"A sense of security speaks of inner peace. A husband can feel it when she knew she trusted him and his commitment to their marriage, "said David and Teresa Ferguson in his book * More Than Married. While the sense of security that might be perceived wife, when her husband came to help him escape from fear through the consoling words of calm and loving. Commitment to family can be communicated through the support of a true and sincere praise.

6. Hugging each other

Remember to hug each other immediately after work, when met at the house. Our skin, he said. Goulston, have a memory about 'good touch' (love), "bad touch" (abused) and "no-touch" (rejection). The couple met while maintaining memory immediately hugged mean skin with 'good touch' and provide warmth.

7. Say Hello

One more word that is sometimes forgotten is the greeting you at bedtime. Say "Good night dear" every night before bed. In fact, it would be impressive if coupled with a kiss. It should be a routine you do every night, no matter what your condition. No matter how you feel.

According Goulston, it will remind your partner that no matter how angry you are still want to be with. That is, what you have is more important than both of rage one day.

8. Tell love as often as possible

Feel free to say love to your partner. Disclose it, "I love you" or other forms of care, such as by saying, "All right yes" in the morning. It is a great way to get the patience and tolerance to face the outside world that is irregular and chaotic. In addition, to convince your partner that you love your spouse is also a form of attention.

9. Heart Reading

Read the care whether your partner at all times. Try to talk to him in his busy schedules, so you can adapt to the mood after the meeting. Of course, to avoid conflicts that might occur. It hurt, annoyance, and needs cannot be fulfilled, are things that cannot be avoided in any close relationship. Even after the honeymoon, things that happen in everyday life can bring-aggravation aggravation.
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Yes, marriage is not perfect two persons who are determined to be in the proximity of a permanent one. It's naturally, if conflict arises. David and Teresa Ferguson in his book More Than Married  say do not ever think that could have an intimate relationship without conflict. But the true conflict resolution efforts can increase intimacy and bring peace in the marriage. Why? "Because it makes the husband and wife both feel safe," they said.

Are you able to agree upon some tips? At least you did some things are in your life with your partner. Mutual love, mutual respect for one another is the basis for the unity and happiness of a household.

Additional tips: Don’t forget to bring your spouse to enjoy a romantic holiday and give small gifts such as chocolate, flowers or diamond ring, even a new digitalcamera. Why not?


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When it comes down to it having a good marriage is a blessing from G-d. Doing His will helps to actualize that blessing for a Happy Marriage.

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