When
the wedding vows pronounced and continued with the honeymoon, marriage is
something very beautiful and blissful newlyweds. Time went by, it looks like
sooner or later, and then you and your partner like routine like the phrase
"business as usual". Do not let this happen in your domestic life,
even though it seems normal, but in the long run can make you or your partner
bored.
Goulston
advise you to always remember the early days of marriage. At that time, did you
not wait to be alone in bed? According to him, the happy couple refused to go
to bed alone. If it was not later downs together, no problem. Even during a
fight. Familiarize still go to bed together though did not speak. Try to keep
your hands or feet touched. And avoid the back-ridge, because it will keep you
both.
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Let
us prevent adverse events in marriage, with a simple recipe and does not need
to make you dizzy, among other things:
1. Starting slept together
When
you go to sleep, do you always sleep at the same time with your wife or
husband? Conditions that may seem trivial, perhaps even escape your attention.
But according to Dr. Mark Goulston in the book The 6 Secrets of a Lasting
Relationship, it is one key to make a marital happiness. Sure it's easy, but
sometimes it is hard to do.
2. Hand in hand when walking together
Happy
couple will feel comfortable when walking hand in hand or side by side, rather
than one in front, one in back staring at the back. It was indeed strange to
the unusual. Awkward indeed, you may be embarrassed to show affection in
public. To forget it is a shame, after all he is your legal spouse. Try it.
Once you are definitely going to continue to try again for ever, and feel the
sensation, then your heart is with your spouse feels more closely.
3. Find Positive Side
Goulston
advise you not to find fault with your partner. Focus on what it is doing is
right, not wrong. Is easy for you to find the things he did wrong. You were
always able to find the same thing true. If both are easy, why do not you look
for the right thing? Because it will help you build a harmonious household. Goulston
said happy couples prefer positive side.
4. Equate your interests with your
spouse
Do
not downplay the activities you can do with your partner. If you do not have,
according to Goulston, happy couples are usually working on. But at the same
time, still maintain your personal interests. That way you will get to love
your partner without being dependent.
5. Mutual Forgiveness
It
was also part of that you should look. Households without trust, is tantamount
to pursuing disastrous. So, create trust and forgiveness as a standard grip in
your relationship. Goulston said, if the happy couple quarrel or disagree and cannot
finish, they will seek to trust and forgive one another, not distrust and
merciless.
"A
sense of security speaks of inner peace. A husband can feel it when she knew
she trusted him and his commitment to their marriage, "said David and
Teresa Ferguson in his book * More Than Married. While the sense of security
that might be perceived wife, when her husband came to help him escape from
fear through the consoling words of calm and loving. Commitment to family can
be communicated through the support of a true and sincere praise.
6. Hugging each other
Remember
to hug each other immediately after work, when met at the house. Our skin, he
said. Goulston, have a memory about 'good touch' (love), "bad touch"
(abused) and "no-touch" (rejection). The couple met while maintaining
memory immediately hugged mean skin with 'good touch' and provide warmth.
7. Say Hello
One
more word that is sometimes forgotten is the greeting you at bedtime. Say
"Good night dear" every night before bed. In fact, it would be
impressive if coupled with a kiss. It should be a routine you do every night,
no matter what your condition. No matter how you feel.
According
Goulston, it will remind your partner that no matter how angry you are still
want to be with. That is, what you have is more important than both of rage one
day.
8. Tell love as often as possible
Feel
free to say love to your partner. Disclose it, "I love you" or other
forms of care, such as by saying, "All right yes" in the morning. It
is a great way to get the patience and tolerance to face the outside world that
is irregular and chaotic. In addition, to convince your partner that you love
your spouse is also a form of attention.
9. Heart Reading
Read
the care whether your partner at all times. Try to talk to him in his busy
schedules, so you can adapt to the mood after the meeting. Of course, to avoid
conflicts that might occur. It hurt, annoyance, and needs cannot be fulfilled,
are things that cannot be avoided in any close relationship. Even after the
honeymoon, things that happen in everyday life can bring-aggravation
aggravation.
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Yes,
marriage is not perfect two persons who are determined to be in the proximity
of a permanent one. It's naturally, if conflict arises. David and Teresa
Ferguson in his book More Than Married say do not ever think that could
have an intimate relationship without conflict. But the true conflict
resolution efforts can increase intimacy and bring peace in the marriage. Why?
"Because it makes the husband and wife both feel safe," they said.
Are
you able to agree upon some tips? At least you did some things are in your life
with your partner. Mutual love, mutual respect for one another is the basis for
the unity and happiness of a household.
Additional
tips: Don’t forget to bring your spouse to enjoy a romantic holiday and give
small gifts such as chocolate, flowers or diamond ring, even a new digitalcamera. Why not?
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